I’ve never been a Maid of Honor. I’ve been a Bridesmaid twice and I have a general sense of what it takes to be an effective Maid of Honor, but I haven’t been faced with the daunting task of catering to a Bride’s every whim. I was blessed with two of the best MOHs a bride could ask for; my sister Stacey and my best friend Amanda.

They are two MOHs who should be available for hire, but more on that later. Stacey, while not as overwhelmingly organized as Amanda, was sweet comic relief. So while she had never been a Bridesmaid before, let alone an MOH, she took the job with an infectious and often hilarious enthusiasm. She must have done a great job because her very good friend has asked her to be MOH for her 10/10/10 wedding. It must be said, and this is completely unrelated but weird, that Stacey’s friend, we’ll call her “Lois” comes from a history of “previously-married-drama”.

Let’s put it this way, Stacey met Lois when she was engaged to her first husband. Stacey also supported her through a divorce, new love, baby and now engagement #2. That’s what friends are for, right? So now Lois and her fiance are planning their 10/10/10 wedding and my sister is her MOH. She recently came to me for advice:

“HELP! Lois wants this color for Bridesmaid dresses; I hate it, but can I say that? I’m going to look like a giant pumpkin!! How can I tell her that I’d wear a trashbag to her wedding if she asked me too, but I’d prefer not to wear this color??”

Apparently, Lois has poor taste in Bridesmaid dress colors.

For their October wedding Lois has chosen a color that screams chocolate covered pumpkin. With no regard for skin tone or hair color, this bride-to-be-again has chosen a color that is not at all flattering – on anyone. So what’s an MOH to do? Recently, I blogged that Brides need to ‘choose their choice’ and stick to it. Should Stacey address the dress or let the Bride choose? For this one, I’ll let you decide.

But ok – since you really want to know…she opted to share her thoughts via email.

“Lois – you know I’d wear a trashbag if you asked me too, but perhaps we can consider a color that would be flattering on all your bridesmaids.  I’ve got some  ideas on colors so I’ll bring pictures when I see you next weekend.”

What do you think about how she ‘addressed the dress’?