My fiance and I were engaged in early December leaving me to flash my newly acquired bling at holiday parties, family gatherings and under the sparkling lights of holiday decorations. It was bliss for a newly engaged woman. What a fun time to get engaged!
But it posed one slight challenge for me: I was instantly in wedding planning mode and my fiance felt like this, “Its the holiday! Let’s wait til the New Year!”. Knowing I didn’t want an exceptionally long engagement, this was precious time wasted!
My fiance was really excited about getting married-but getting him to help set the date was nearly impossible. I share with you now some set the date strategies that worked for us!
- Ask your fiance if he has a time of year that he does NOT want to get married. If you can immediately rule out certain times of year like football, baseball and basketball season you may now have his full attention!
- Find out his parents, and if applicable, siblings and friends wedding anniversaries. He’s not likely to want to overlap with them. Then again, he may want to so its easier to remember the date.
- Realistically plan out the next year to two years. Are there any major events coming up? Graduations, other weddings, travel, etc. If you and your fiance are a low key couple, you may need less than a year to plan, but if not, book it at least 1.5 years out to allow plenty of time to get it on your calendars to maximize optimal guest attendance.
- Find out how involved he wants to be involved with the planning. This is KEY. My guy wanted to help with ring, food, cake, music and tuxes. Beyond that it was my show to run. If your guy wants to be told what day, what time and where to stand, the ball is in your court.
So what are you waiting for? Get started! How did you determine your wedding date?
There’s so much more to do after you set the date. But never fear! Check back here for some more helpful wedding planning tips and let us know any questions!
