My co-work was just recently engaged! We were so excited to hear the news and of course, like most girls, I wanted to hear all about two key things:
- How did he propose?
- What’s the ring look like?
But it occured to me, after chatting briefly with my co-worker that newly engaged couples instantly feel pressure!
While she was explaining how her new fiance bought the ring and how he proposed, she immediately followed that up with what felt like an excuse for why they weren’t further along in the ‘planning process’. I felt so bad!
I know we get excited when our friends and family decide to get engaged and get married, but we need to let them enjoy the engagement period and not pressure them to set a date, choose a location, decide on their colors and send announcements. Have we, over the years, put so much pressure on soon to be Mr. and Mrs. that they, immediately after getting engaged, feel that they should have already sent the Save the Dates? Newly engaged couples shouldn’t have to apologize.
To my soon to be Mrs Co-worker, - congratulations! Enjoy being engaged! Relish the experience of calling each other Fiance! The planning part will come. Believe me. For now, enjoy the cards, the well wishes and the gifts 
And to those people out there who want you to have already sent the invitations, tell them to back off for a month or so. You’ll get to it.
